Some things I’ve been reading

I lieu of sharing my own thoughts, here are some other people’s writings that have impacted me lately.

Awkward from Carl McColman.

Jesus Walking On The Water: A Sermon Sarcastic and Serious from Nadia Bolz-Weber

Reading Revolution: 14 Marvelous Modern Libraries

Just Another Woman at Michfest from Alice Kalafarski

A Prayer for Humility by William Barclay

Greenbelt Sermon from Nadia Bolz-Weber

Worshipping God Through Our Sorrow from Caleb Wilde

Encountering The Monster That I Am from Peter Rollins

The Trash of the World: Paul And Universalism from Peter Rollins

“What We Need Is Here” by Wendell Berry

Geese appear high over us,
pass, and the sky closes. Abandon,
as in love or sleep, holds
them to their way, clear
in the ancient faith: what we need
is here. And we pray, not
for new earth or heaven, but to be
quiet in heart, and in eye,
clear. What we need is here.

Fuck Circumcision

In San Francisco someone is collecting signatures to get a measure banning circumcision on the ballot for next November. I heard about this via a reddit link to a Parenting magazine article discussing the push. Breaking the first rule of the internet, I had to go and read the comments.

Commenter APRYLLE (yes, in all caps) writes “For anyone to have the audacity to believe they have any right to tell a parent how they can or cannot proceed with something so personal is presumptuous and incredibly autocratic.”

Commenter Pam Komarnicki writes “Seriously, these people need to be tranquilized or something. I’d like to pass a “Mind Your Own Business” initiative.”

Jennifer H chimes in with “While I think there is nothing wrong with an uncircumcised penis I do not think a city or any form of government should have the right to tell me I can not do it.”

Ians mom thinks ” It’s all up to the parents, no one has the right to take that choice away!”

According to these folks it’s quite arrogant for the government to be stepping in and telling them about decisions regarding their children’s bodies. “No one has the right to take that choice away!”

Okay then, moms, what the fucking fuck gave you the right to have a part of your child’s body cut off? You want to talk about violating rights? You want to talk about who needs to mind their own business? A child’s penis isn’t the property of the parents. It’s not yours to make decisions about. The audacity is that parents think it’s okay to use “That’s what his dad looks like,” as an excuse to subject their child to useless surgery. They cry, “It’s cleaner!” You know what? So is a goddamn washcloth! Are you going to have his ears cut off so he doesn’t have to remember to wash behind them too? “He may have problems with the foreskin down the line.” Yeah, he might get appendicitis one day too, so are you going to have the doctor take that out now as well, while he’s young enough to not remember it.

It’s up to parents to care for children until they are able. I understand that. But children’s bodies are still their own. Making permanent surgical modifications to them before they are able to consent is vile and speaks of the arrogance of parents.

I Miss You

I Miss You

I miss you. I just sort of whisper it to the north when I’m alone.
I miss you. Or at least, I miss us. And us is something that isn’t right now.
But no. I miss you, and the beauty and joy you brought into my life for a little while.
The way you handled my early trepidations with a smile.
How when I was working in the kitchen in a tank top and skirt you told me that I looked pretty.
The way you’d squeeze my hand so tight,
How your tiny eyes would fill with light
When I wanted to watch your favorite show with you
The very particular scent you’d leave on my pillow.
The light taste of tobacco on your kiss from the cigarette you didn’t want me to know you’d had.
Your mischief, and the tender, fierce longing in your embrace.

I was never angry that you left. I knew I wouldn’t have you forever.
I was only hurt by how.

But every day I remember something else you did or said that made my life a little more amazing.
And I miss you.

Discussing racism

There was a bit of an explosion recently on the mailing list for a swingers club I have frequented in the past. Someone was complaining about people breaking a rule that single men are expected to follow, but the description offered described the offender as “this black guy.” Several people made the comment that it sounded like the problem then was less that the rule was broken by a single guy, but that it was broken by a black guy.

The ensuing shitstorm reminded me of this amazing video by Jay Smooth

While I tried to stick to the guidelines Jay put forth here, it still devolved into “I’m not a racist!” then worse into people saying that their desire to play only with white couples wasn’t racist at all. It was just a preference.

I had to just unsubscribe from the list before I devolved into this.