Facial experts?

From Marty Klein

Despite eyewitness accounts that the woman asked to be “rained on,” the State says it must be rape because no sane, sober woman would actually consent to such a perversion.

Jones’ attorney requested I testify as an expert witness about the many ideas and practices regarding ejaculation and semen (and faces) that have developed over the centuries. The Chief Judge of the District Court approved the expenses for me to fly out.

But the State prosecutor pulled a legal technicality and challenged my expertise, and so the trial judge held a phone hearing. She was told I’d written five books about sexuality, trained almost 100,000 doctors and psychologists in sexuality, and done sex therapy and marriage counseling for about 30,000 hours.

And she turned me down. I hadn’t written any books on “facials.” I hadn’t taken any courses on “facials.” I hadn’t done any research studies of “facials.” It’s all true. Of course, no one has.

Hey look! The state has said you don’t have control of your own consent! The assertion has been made that no one in control of herself could possibly wish to have semen on her face, therefore the act itself must be rape. What on earth gives ANYONE the right to make that assertion. What if this had been a BDSM scene, or something involving other bodily fluids? I know nothing about this case, and I don’t take charges of rape lightly, but the justification being given here by the State is asinine. They are taking away people’s ability to decide what acts, sexual and otherwise, they want to engage in.

Oh, and the post goes on to say that the judge said even if he had written the book on facials, his testimony would still be pointless because, well, everyone knows all about sex already, so there’s nothing a sexologist could possibly add.

In celebration of the vulva!

Last week I went to a really wonderful student performance of the Vagina Monologues at put on by LSU’s Women Organizing Women. The women were excellent performers, and really got into their various roles. It was beautiful, and the balance they struck between celebrating bodies and mourning the violence done to them was quite impressive. I enjoyed myself.

That said, there were a few things I had issues with. The first was a quote from the ever-irksome Andrea Dworkin about how equality can never exist alongside (among other things) pornography. As someone who finds a lot of legitimate personal expression in creating (and often viewing/reading) pornography, I was a little annoyed. And being intimately involved with a woman who does the same, and to see her sexuality insulted like that in a venue supposedly dedicated to building it up was rather infuriating.

Also, the head of LAFASA (Louisiana Foundation Against sexual Assault) for whom the event was a fundraiser, mentioned the recent controversy over New York’s Governor Spitzer being discovered to have patronized a prostitute. She said it was nice to finally be holding a man responsible for the “social ill of prostitution.” It seems to me that prostitution itself is not a social ill, but the way it’s generally practiced is a result of the way which we as a society treat sex. Her comments seemed to disregard all of those who choose to become and remain sex workers. Demonization of prostitution seems only a step away from demonization of prostitutes, or better, regarding them as in need of pity, deluded, or abused because of their profession. Work to erase the violence against them, not to eradicate what they do. That’s like attacking agriculture because of abuses of migrant workers.

Finally there was a slide that said “Resist Rape Culture” and gave as examples of this covers of Maxim (or some such magazine), Girls Gone Wild, and what looked like scenes from porn.

But as I said, the performance itself was top notch! The entrance to the International Cultural Center (where the show was held) was decorated with draped red and pink fabric with a pink paper lantern at the apex. I got a chuckle out of that. And I was engrossed enough in the performance that I hardly even cringed when there was a bit about someone shaving her vagina. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against shaving. But trying to shave one’s vagina would probably lead to a trip to the emergency room for some very uncomfortable stitches. I love the play, but I’d love to see some vulva love as well.

There was also a “Vagina Art Show” afterwards with lots of female-genital related pieces of art: paintings, sculptures, fabric arts, collage. It was really amazing. After discovering that I could use my debit card to purchase I piece, I had to go for this reimagining of the Mother of God, entitled “In A New Light”.

I see it as an affirmation of the sacredness of our bodies as well as of the fleshiness of Mary and Jesus. It’s a nice escape from the too-frequent attacks on the body within Christianity.

And I have to say, the play, the art show and the piece I bought inspired me to work at creating some body-positive art of my own. Tonight I went to Hobby Lobby and got some polymer clay and paint and made vulva art!

To show the size, I placed a lighter next to the pre-baked piece and later photographed it after baking and painting.

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Next up? Penis art!

This is why I can't stand Tyra Banks (from touchyourself.org)

I sat down this afternoon to have a bit of lunch and I turned on the television to see what was on. Tyra Banks was on her talk show interviewing an 18 year old porn actress, and that sounds like some good TV to the Gabe.

The girl was discussing her first scene and how it was with a man in his 50s. Tyra was absolutely shocked. Scandalized! The girl continued that it was a fellatio scene (Tyra: “Oral sex?”) and the guy was telling her all the things he wanted to do to her, but that she couldn’t understand what he was saying due to his Italian accent. She looked at him and told him he could punch her in the stomach if he wanted.

Again Tyra with the shock and scandal.

Tyra: “He hit you in the stomach?!”

Porn Girl: “No, he didn’t.”

Tyra: “But you wanted him to?”

They moved on to talk about her limits in what she does, and she said “No children and no animals,” to which Tyra responded, “You have anal sex?”

She answered in the affirmative, and again Tyra started with the shock and scandal, along with a heftier dose of looks of pity toward the girl. Women in the audience were shown with mouths agape, unable to believe that someone would do this sort of work.

Tyra decided she was going to commercial because she “needed a minute to recover from that.”

Go to hell Tyra Banks, you pathetic hypocrite.

She is sitting there making out this girl to be someone deserving of pity and as someone who does things no decent person would do because she sells sex, but this is from someone who built an entire career on selling sex! What, it’s okay to strut around in your underwear turning people on, but it suddenly becomes bad if you touch someone else?

And to make matters worse, when they cut to commercial they showed a promo for tomorrow’s show with Tyra in a low-cut shirt displaying her assets for our approval. The first words out of her mouth were “It’s all about the boobies!” Apparently the show is all about how best to show off tits and ass.

All these shocked and dismayed looking women want to be sexual creatures, but when they encounter someone who puts that into practice in a way outside of their experience they they’re belittled and treated like a charity case! On one show you want to treat sex like something to be ashamed of and to be hidden and surely not something to be done for money! Then the next show you want to show people how to spend money so that they can be sexualized more easily.

Do you not see the disconnect here?

This is why I can’t stand Tyra Banks.